Many years ago there was a commercial that made the late night rounds back in Boston that was one of my favorites. Sy Sperling’s Hair Club for Men. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IuRLGdGnqSU
The commercial was awesome for several reasons:
- It was incredibly cheesy and always brought a laugh
- It almost always aired after midnight and served as a reminder for hard drinkers to go to bed
- Sy was commendably candid
In the commercial Sy reminded us that he didn’t just peddle gimmicky hair products for balding men but also that he was similarly a victim of premature balding. In other words, he suffered right along with you. He was one of us.
I was reminded of that the other day as I struggled during the last few weeks to demonstrate integrity and respectful communication during some trying times here in Northern California. I have dedicated my professional life to teaching respectful and effective communication and founded my company on these principles. But like Sy Sperling, I suffer right along with you, “I am not only the President, I am also a client.”
However, all is not lost. A great mentor of mine, Mr. Joe Takash of Victory Consulting, once taught me that great relationships are not built – they are rebuilt over time, again and again. We are human and so we are destined to disappoint and let ourselves and others down, it is part of the human condition. However, these breakdowns are mere opportunities to rebuild the relationship and create a deeper, more meaningful relationship.
So if you have failed to live up to the standards of another human in a current relationship recently that’s ok. You have the chance to get up off the mat, shed your cumbersome concerns about being right or defending yourself and reach out to rebuild the relationship from a place of sincere caring. I promise you that if you can do this you will be ushering in new and more powerful possibilities for the relationship.